No, I do not.
Let’s look at this two different ways:
Taking the phrase in a literal sense, it would mean falling in love with someone the moment you see them, based on the way they look. Studies show that looks are deceiving and something as simple as the story of Beauty and the Beast can show that.
But not only should you be careful about judging by outward appearance, looks are not what you should be basing your interest on. If you “fall in love” with someone because they are good looking or “hot”, then you don’t really love the person. You love the way they look. It’s not love, it’s desire to possess something you think is beautiful. (Which is kind of creepy now that I think about it. People aren’t objects to be possessed. I never thought of this before…)
So, concluding point number one: Attraction to outward appearance is not love, and love should never be based on such attraction, either. (But it is probably a good thing, in general, if you find the person you love to be attractive.)
Maybe it means you see how they treat you, and since you are pleased by what you have observed, you “fall in love” with them.
This is definitely makes a bit more sense than the previous idea, and I would have an easier time believing it. However…
A few minutes is NOT enough time to get to know someone well enough to decide if you love them. That short amount of time was probably a good time for them. But what about the rest of the time? What about how they treat other people and act around them? And how would you know if they will treat you that way all the time?
Frozen’s example of Anna and Hans is too obvious not to mention. Anna met Hans and instantly liked him. After another meeting, she decided she loved him and wanted to marry him as soon as possible. What she should have done is waited a while, getting to know him first. Then maybe she would have seen how he really was.
In conclusion of point number two, you really need to get to know someone first. Hang out with them. Become their close friend. And then once you know who they really are, you can decide if you really like them.
So, again, I do not believe in “love at first sight.” And I have told you why.
Let’s look at this two different ways:
- One
Taking the phrase in a literal sense, it would mean falling in love with someone the moment you see them, based on the way they look. Studies show that looks are deceiving and something as simple as the story of Beauty and the Beast can show that.
But not only should you be careful about judging by outward appearance, looks are not what you should be basing your interest on. If you “fall in love” with someone because they are good looking or “hot”, then you don’t really love the person. You love the way they look. It’s not love, it’s desire to possess something you think is beautiful. (Which is kind of creepy now that I think about it. People aren’t objects to be possessed. I never thought of this before…)
So, concluding point number one: Attraction to outward appearance is not love, and love should never be based on such attraction, either. (But it is probably a good thing, in general, if you find the person you love to be attractive.)
- Two
Maybe it means you see how they treat you, and since you are pleased by what you have observed, you “fall in love” with them.
This is definitely makes a bit more sense than the previous idea, and I would have an easier time believing it. However…
A few minutes is NOT enough time to get to know someone well enough to decide if you love them. That short amount of time was probably a good time for them. But what about the rest of the time? What about how they treat other people and act around them? And how would you know if they will treat you that way all the time?
Frozen’s example of Anna and Hans is too obvious not to mention. Anna met Hans and instantly liked him. After another meeting, she decided she loved him and wanted to marry him as soon as possible. What she should have done is waited a while, getting to know him first. Then maybe she would have seen how he really was.
In conclusion of point number two, you really need to get to know someone first. Hang out with them. Become their close friend. And then once you know who they really are, you can decide if you really like them.
So, again, I do not believe in “love at first sight.” And I have told you why.
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